Episode 2: Embracing Impermanence – Finding Peace in Change

Continuing the Journey: Embracing Impermanence – Finding Peace in Change

In the first episode of my journey, “The Path Within: Transforming Myself Through Buddhism,” I explored the foundational principles of mindfulness and the profound impact they have had on my life. Through the teachings of Buddhism, I discovered a pathway to self-awareness, acceptance, and transformation. As I delved deeper into these teachings, I began to confront the realities of impermanence—a theme that resonates powerfully within the Buddhist philosophy.

In this episode, “Embracing Impermanence – Finding Peace in Change,” I reflect on my evolving relationship with change and the transient nature of existence. Drawing from personal experiences and insights gained through mindfulness, I share how embracing impermanence has transformed my understanding of life’s uncertainties, fostering resilience and a sense of peace amidst chaos. Join me as I navigate this intricate dance of change, revealing how each moment, fleeting yet unique, offers invaluable lessons on growth and self-discovery.

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Mindfulness as a Practice of Presence

In my 20s and 30s, I found myself in a good job that I genuinely enjoyed. Yet, beneath the surface of my apparent success, a subtle anxiety lingered. While those around me viewed my life as stable, I often grappled with a persistent thought: What if one day, this is all gone? I worried about my future and what I could do next to keep pace with society’s ever-evolving demands. These thoughts sometimes robbed me of restful nights as my mind raced with uncertainty about what lay ahead.

Looking back, I see how this constant worrying stole my joy in the present moment. Even though I had what I needed, my mind was preoccupied with fears of impermanence. It wasn’t until I embraced mindfulness that I began to accept life’s transient nature. Instead of resisting change, I learned to accept that nothing is permanent. Everything is in a state of flux—and that’s perfectly okay.

The Role of Impermanence in Mindfulness

As I entered my 30s and 40s, I began to truly grasp life’s unpredictability, especially with the birth of my first son. His arrival filled me with immense joy, yet it also confronted me with the fragility of life. Witnessing his growth and facing moments of illness, I became acutely aware of our limited time here. Each challenge he encountered was a stark reminder that the only certainty is change. However, I didn’t fully comprehend the concept of impermanence at that time.

This awareness shifted something within me. Though I lacked the vocabulary to articulate it, my experiences with my son illuminated the transient nature of existence. I learned that while we can cherish moments of happiness, we must also prepare for uncertainty and sorrow. Instead of viewing these moments as burdens, I began to appreciate the lessons they brought.

Through mindfulness, I discovered the importance of non-attachment—not only to outcomes and identities but also to difficult emotions. When feelings of anxiety surfaced, instead of clinging to or pushing them away, I acknowledged them, reminding myself that this, too, shall pass. This practice enabled me to observe the shifting nature of my experiences without being swept away by them.

Mindfulness encourages us to focus on the present moment—not to avoid the future, but because the present is the only moment we truly possess. Acknowledging impermanence deepens our commitment to this practice. When we realize that every experience and every breath is fleeting, we naturally draw ourselves into the here and now, understanding that trying to hold onto the past or control the future is futile.

Growth as an Impermanence Process

Impermanence teaches us that change is not just inevitable; it is essential for growth. In a world where many, particularly older generations, seek permanence and stability, the fear of change can feel overwhelming. Society often promotes the belief that we can maintain our positions and routines until retirement. However, my studies in "Managerial of Changes" during my MBA revealed that change is a catalyst for growth; stagnation is merely a step backward. This understanding aligns closely with the essence of impermanence: nothing lasts forever.

Embracing this reality has transformed my perspective on change—especially in relationships and my career. Previously, I struggled to accept the end of relationships, whether friendships or romantic partnerships. Letting go felt daunting, as if I were losing a part of myself. However, grasping the concept of impermanence helped me recognize that every relationship serves a purpose at a specific time in our lives. This understanding illuminated the truth that endings often pave the way for new beginnings. By letting go of attachments, I created space for healthier relationships that align more closely with my evolving self.

In my career, I faced significant transitions that initially felt like setbacks. Sticking to the same routine day after day led me into a state of desperation and stress. Acknowledging the need for change, particularly to develop new skills for my software development career, was a turning point. Accepting that I had fallen behind, I began to enjoy the learning process, exploring new job opportunities and joining two medium-sized software development companies to understand more effective approaches to software development and delivery.

Viewing difficulties or losses through the lens of impermanence has softened the emotional weight of these experiences. After visiting a human body exhibit in Los Angeles, I looked at my reflection and realized that the only difference between me and others was the skin covering our bodies. This profound realization shifted my perspective, allowing me to approach challenges with curiosity rather than despair. Instead of being consumed by the fear of loss, I learned to explore the lessons these challenges could teach me.

A poignant experience during my son’s health struggles underscored this lesson. While the fear of losing him loomed large, understanding impermanence shifted my focus. Rather than dwelling solely on the possibility of loss, I cherished our time together, celebrating small victories and moments of connection. This perspective illuminated the beauty in our shared experiences, revealing new opportunities for deeper bonding and understanding.

Ultimately, impermanence serves as a profound teacher, urging us to embrace change and recognize the growth it brings. When we accept that life is a series of moments—each fleeting and unique—we become more open to learning and evolving. This acceptance fosters resilience and cultivates gratitude for every experience, no matter how transient.

Finding Stability Amidst Change and the Journey of Self-Discovery

Life is an intricate dance of paradoxes. Staying in our comfort zones cannot shield us from impermanence; we grow older day by day, moment by moment. Embracing impermanence has not only helped me navigate life’s unpredictability but also cultivated a sense of peace amidst the chaos. Understanding that change is a fundamental aspect of existence allows me to find solace in the knowledge that nothing lasts forever, including difficulties.

To ground myself during times of uncertainty, I’ve turned to various practices. Rather than viewing difficulties as obstacles, I began to see them as opportunities for growth and adventure, much like dancing between wolves. I embraced life’s challenges, reminding myself that I was still present—grounding myself by observing my breath or focusing on my steps while trekking through the jungles of life.

This understanding has transformed my relationships. I’ve come to appreciate the fluidity of connections, recognizing that they may evolve or fade over time. Observing nature’s changes, I’ve witnessed how everything forms and transforms, revealing that everything happens for a reason. There’s truly nothing to worry about. This perspective allows me to engage with others authentically, free from the fear of losing what once was. By embracing impermanence, I’ve created space for deeper, more meaningful interactions that reflect who I am in this moment, rather than who I once was.

Ultimately, accepting impermanence has illuminated my journey of self-discovery. I’ve learned that my identity is not a fixed entity but a dynamic process, shaped by experiences, relationships, and growth. Just as waves are formed by water, influenced by winds and the moon’s gravitational pull, I realize that high waves of growth eventually fade, returning to what they were—water. This realization empowers me to approach life with curiosity and openness, allowing me to embrace existence’s ever-changing nature while finding stability in my acceptance of it.

Conclusion

Recognizing impermanence has profoundly transformed my journey, guiding me toward greater acceptance, inner peace, and openness to life. By embracing the transient nature of existence, I’ve learned to let go of attachments and fears that once held me back. Each challenge and change has become a stepping stone for growth rather than a source of anxiety, allowing me to experience life more fully in the present moment.

I now understand that obstacles, problems, and challenges are not meant to defeat me; instead, they offer opportunities for improvement through the “Learn how to learn” strategy I’ve adopted.

This exploration of impermanence continues to inform my spiritual journey, providing valuable insights and lessons. I recognize that every experience, whether joyful or challenging, contributes to my growth and self-discovery. The deeper I delve into this understanding, the more I find a sense of freedom and peace in knowing that life is fluid and ever-evolving.

As I move forward, I’m excited to share new insights and growth, eager to see how this perspective will shape my experiences. In the next episode, I will explore “Embracing Change: Lessons from Life’s Transitions,” sharing personal stories and reflections on how navigating life’s changes has deepened my understanding of impermanence and enriched my unexpected journeys toward self-awareness.

For further exploration, consider these resources:

Nhat Hanh, Thich. The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation. Beacon Press, 1996.

Nhat Hanh, Thich. “Understanding the Nature of Reality.” The Lion’s Roar, 2014. 

Psychology Today. “The Benefits of Mindfulness.” Psychology Today.

Series: How Did I Build MineEco system? Part 2 - Building the MineEco System

In this section, we explore the process of building the MineEco system from the ground up. Starting with the outdated MineOrder system, I faced numerous challenges. The legacy system relied on outdated technologies like the .NET Framework and an inflexible, monolithic design. These constraints limited adaptability and scalability, making it difficult to meet modern technological and business demands.

To overcome these barriers, I embarked on a journey of transformation, leveraging modern tools, frameworks, and architectural patterns. This shift was crucial for developing a system that not only meets current business needs but is also poised for future growth and adaptability.

We will delve into the detailed process of constructing the new system, focusing on planning and design, and share insights into creating a scalable, flexible solution that aligns with industry standards and technological advancements.

Reconstructing the System

Challenges of Redoing the System

Inflexibility: The original MineOrder system faced significant limitations due to its outdated design. Built using Xamarin and the .NET Framework, it was not designed with scalability in mind. The system’s architecture was heavily tied to traditional POS hardware, restricting its adaptability to modern standards and evolving business needs. This rigidity created substantial challenges in scalability and flexibility, particularly as the industry shifted towards mobile and hardware-independent solutions.

Outdated Design Principles: MineOrder’s initial architecture relied on monolithic structures, making updates cumbersome and resource-intensive. The centralized nature of this design hindered easy scaling and adaptation to market changes, especially as newer, more modular approaches became industry standards.

Replanning and Redesign

To address these challenges, I undertook a comprehensive redesign of the system, focusing on several key improvements to adopt new technologies and facilitate future updates:

• Modern, Scalable Technologies: Transitioning to .NET Core for the backend, which handles APIs and web-based functionalities, and MAUI for the frontend, enabled cross-platform compatibility. This transition supports app delivery across various platforms, including Windows, macOS, iOS, and Android, and facilitated the development of a more modular and scalable system.

• Microservices Architecture: Adopting a microservices approach provided enhanced flexibility and simplified future upgrades, allowing for a more efficient and distributed system.

• Cloud Integration: Leveraging cloud services for data management and infrastructure offered scalable solutions that enhanced flexibility and cost-effectiveness. This integration was based on modern DevOps practices and automation, supporting the system's growth and adaptability.

Picture: The architect design of MineEco

Development and Cost Considerations

The development phase presented significant challenges, as balancing the creation of a robust, scalable system with the constraints of a startup budget was crucial. Opting for AWS Free Tier offered a cost-effective solution for cloud infrastructure, though it’s important to note that it is not entirely free but rather affordable within certain usage limits. Azure DevOps was chosen for its efficiency in managing operations and automating processes, which was crucial for keeping development and deployment costs under control. This strategy ensured that the system could be developed effectively while staying within budgetary constraints.

Implementing modern technologies required a deep understanding of system architecture and significant experience with AWS and Microsoft Azure. Balancing these requirements with cost constraints necessitated extensive self-directed research, drawing on my previous experience with medium and large-scale projects. This effort was essential to ensure that the system was both well-designed and cost-efficient.

Key Learnings and Insights

Embrace Modern Technologies Early: Transitioning to modern technologies like .NET Core and MAUI was essential for overcoming the limitations of legacy systems. Although it took nearly six months of research, design, and setup, early adoption of scalable and flexible technologies significantly improved system performance and adaptability.

Importance of a Modular Architecture: Adopting a microservices architecture instead of a monolithic design provided greater flexibility and ease of maintenance. This modular approach allows individual components to be updated or scaled independently, which is crucial for adapting to evolving market needs.

Cloud Integration Benefits: Leveraging cloud services for infrastructure and data management offered scalability and cost-effectiveness. Cloud-based solutions supported growth and enhanced operational efficiency, making it easier to handle fluctuating demands and manage resources effectively.

Balancing Cost and Quality: While the AWS Free Tier and Azure DevOps provided cost-effective solutions, it was important to understand their limitations and manage expectations. Effective cost management required careful planning and a deep understanding of the resources and constraints associated with these tools.

Self-Reliance in Research: Conducting extensive research and leveraging previous experience were crucial for navigating the complexities of modern system architecture. For non-technical startup members, this might be challenging. Fortunately, my experience with these technologies facilitated the proper development of MineEco. This self-directed approach ensured that the system was designed with a comprehensive understanding of current technologies and cost constraints.

Future Plans and Improvements

Continuous Updates and Industry Alignment: With the system configured for DevOps, ongoing updates and improvements will be essential to keep it aligned with industry standards and evolving business needs. Strategic planning for future enhancements, along with staying informed about emerging technologies, will be crucial for maintaining a competitive edge and ensuring the system remains effective and relevant.

Responding to Customer Feedback: Future developments for MineEco will focus on integrating customer feedback and requests to better address their business needs. By actively engaging with users and adapting the system based on their input, MineEco aims to enhance functionality, improve user experience, and address emerging requirements.

Expanding with SaaS Solutions: With the foundational core of the MineEco system already established, we are well-positioned to expand and adapt by integrating new features as requested by our business customers. This capability allows MineEco to evolve into a SaaS solutions provider, offering tailored functionalities that address emerging business requirements. By leveraging the existing system’s flexibility, we can continuously enhance our offerings to meet the evolving needs of the market and deliver increased value to our customers.

Lessons Learned for adopting software startups

Adopt Modern Technologies Early: Embracing scalable and flexible technologies from the start enhances system performance and adaptability, laying a strong foundation for future growth.

Prioritize Modular Architecture: Opt for a microservices architecture over a monolithic design to improve flexibility and ease of maintenance. This approach allows for independent updates and scaling, essential for adapting to evolving market needs.

Leverage Cloud Solutions: Utilize cloud services for their scalability and cost-effectiveness, which support growth and operational efficiency.

Balance Cost and Quality: Effectively manage startup costs by understanding the limitations of affordable solutions and planning strategically to ensure quality without overspending.

Conduct Thorough Research: Deep research and self-reliance are crucial for navigating system complexities and designing effective solutions.

Plan for Continuous Improvement: Implement DevOps practices to facilitate ongoing updates and keep the system relevant and competitive.

Expand Strategically: Build upon the core system to integrate new features and adapt to business requirements, supporting long-term growth and relevance.

Conclusion

This concludes Part 2 of my series on building the MineEco system. In this section, I covered the foundational aspects of how MineEco was constructed, focusing on the overarching process rather than diving deeply into technical details. If you have any questions or need assistance with implementing or setting up the platform, feel free to reach out—I’m happy to help.

In the upcoming Part 3: Overcoming Obstacles, we’ll explore the various challenges faced during the development of MineEco and the strategies employed to address them. I’ll share practical insights and lessons learned that can guide other startups through similar hurdles and help them build resilient, high-performance systems.

Series: How Did I Build MineEco system? Part 1 - The Beginning of the MineEco

Series: How Did I Build MineEco system? Part 1 - The Beginning of the MineEco

Introduction

The journey to rebuilding the MineEco system—MineEco being the name of my project—began with my trip to Niagara Falls, Ontario, Canada. In 2019, I launched MineOrder, which faced significant challenges due to the Covid-19 pandemic. While this setback was disappointing, it provided valuable lessons for future projects.

Returning to the Niagara Falls region in 2023 and spending several months there, I conducted extensive research into the market potential for a new system. This research was pivotal in shaping the MineEco system, which is grounded in the principles of mobility, eco-friendliness, and cost-effectiveness. MinePOS provides a flexible, software-based solution for seamless operation across various devices and platforms, while MinePOP streamlines the checkout process to reduce costs and enhance efficiency for retailers.

The Inspiration

My initial goal in the Niagara Falls region was to explore opportunities for starting a software development company. However, I faced significant barriers, including high costs and elevated unemployment rates among developers in the regions. The Covid-19 pandemic further impacted the business environment, leading to a noticeable downturn.

These challenges prompted me to reconsider my approach. Rather than pursuing a new software development business, I chose to leverage the insights gained from these experiences to pivot my strategy. This shift in perspective was instrumental in shaping the MineEco system.

Research and Planning

To better understand the local market, I engaged with businesses and stores in the Niagara Falls area. These conversations revealed the barriers within the software development industry and highlighted the need for alternative solutions.

From these discussions, it became evident that the software development industry had significant barriers, making it a less viable path for me. The high costs and competitive nature of the industry reinforced the need for a different approach. I found myself questioning whether to continue with the original approach or pivot to something new.

Instead of following a traditional software development path, I explored new approaches that would address local business needs while circumventing industry challenges. This research ultimately guided the conceptualization of the MineEco system, designed to offer innovative and adaptable solutions based on the insights gained.

Concept Development

With a clearer understanding of the market, I began re-researching global POS and checkout systems, focusing particularly on Canada, the US, Australia, Singapore, and Vietnam—countries where I have lived or visited. This involved examining industry standards, market conditions, and the necessity of traditional POS setups.

A key aspect of my research was questioning the necessity of hardware for running a store with a POS system. Specifically, I explored whether businesses truly needed traditional POS setups or if there were alternative solutions for functions like printing receipts. This questioning was crucial in shaping my approach to developing a more adaptable system.

By comparing these insights with the existing MineOrder system, I identified areas for improvement and adaptation. This led to the creation of the MineEco system, which features software-based solutions like MinePOS and MinePOP. These solutions are designed to be more flexible and cost-effective, allowing businesses to operate efficiently without being tied to traditional POS and hardware constraints.

Initial Challenges

MineOrder’s outdated technical stacks presented significant challenges when revisiting the project. These outdated technologies made it difficult to move forward and required a substantial overhaul to meet current industry standards.

Additionally, I reached out to various potential collaborators to discuss the possibility of reforming MineOrder and collaborating. However, I faced rejections due to several factors, including differing visions, the high demands and high risks of the project.

In response to these challenges, I decided to go by myself and opted to use modern technologies such as MAUI for app development and .NET Core for microservices. This decision was crucial for building a system capable of adapting to rapid infrastructure changes and meeting current industry standards. Collaborators were deterred by the project's technical complexity, high resource demands, and ambitious goals, which posed significant risks and required specialized expertise.

End of Part 1

This concludes Part 1 of my series. In the next installment, Part 2: Building the MineEco System, I will delve into the process of constructing and implementing the ecosystem. I’ll share insights and experiences on setting up the Mine Ecosystem, focusing on both technical and strategic aspects which may help startups having a full picture of how to build a high scale system, not a product or an application.

Lesson learned: Embrace the desire for self-improvement and seek better approaches to help yourself and others. Unexpected journeys often lead us to where we truly belong. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and explore new adventures. Growth and meaningful experiences often come from taking bold steps beyond familiar boundaries.

Series: How Did I Build MineEco system? Part 2 - Building the MineEco System

The "Death Spiral of Ants" vs Social Media: Learning to Break Free from the Loop

In the natural world, the "death spiral" of ants is a tragic phenomenon where ants lose their sense of direction and begin following each other in a circle, ultimately leading to their demise if they don't break the cycle. This metaphorical concept can be applied to human behavior on social media, where similar patterns of circular, self-reinforcing behavior emerge, often with negative consequences. However, unlike ants, humans have the capacity to recognize these patterns and take steps to avoid them. Here's how we can learn from this metaphor and break free from harmful social media loops.

1. Herd Behavior and Information Spread

In the ant's death spiral, one ant begins following another, leading to a self-reinforcing loop. On social media, humans often exhibit similar herd behavior. Trends, viral challenges, misinformation, and popular opinions spread quickly as people follow what others are doing without critically evaluating the content. Just as ants blindly follow the path laid out by others, people on social media can be swept up in the momentum of what's trending.

Lesson Learned: Cultivate Mindful Awareness

• Reflect on your social media habits: What triggers your engagement? How often do you check your accounts? How do you feel afterward?
• By becoming more mindful of your habits, you can identify when you're falling into patterns of mindless scrolling, comparison, or seeking validation.

Actionable Tip: Set specific times to check social media and limit usage to those periods. Use mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing, to ground yourself before and after logging in.

2. Feedback Loops and Validation

Social media platforms are designed to create feedback loops, where users receive instant validation through likes, comments, and shares. This design can trap users in a cycle of behavior where they continually seek out this validation, much like ants trapped in a circular path. The pursuit of online validation can lead to repetitive posting and interaction, even when it becomes detrimental to mental health.

Lesson Learned: Engage with Purpose

• Instead of passively consuming content, use social media intentionally. Align your usage with your values and goals, and avoid getting caught in the validation-seeking loop.

Actionable Tip: Before logging onto social media, set an intention for how you want to use your time. Whether it's connecting with a friend, sharing something valuable, or learning something new, having a purpose in mind will help you stay focused.

3. Filter Bubbles: Trapped in a Loop

Filter bubbles on social media function similarly to the ant's death spiral. Algorithms on platforms like Facebook and Instagram curate content based on users' past behavior, trapping them in a loop of information that aligns with their existing beliefs and preferences. This results in a closed system where users are only exposed to views and content that reinforce their worldview, preventing them from seeing alternative perspectives.

Lesson Learned: Diversify Your Information Sources

• To avoid getting stuck in filter bubbles, actively seek out diverse perspectives and content that challenges your views. Doing so will broaden your understanding and reduce the risk of polarization.

Actionable Tip: Follow accounts and news outlets that offer different perspectives. Use tools like news aggregators or RSS feeds to access a broader range of content from various sources.

4. Negative Consequences: The Impact on Mental Health

The relentless pursuit of validation, combined with the effects of herd behavior and filter bubbles, can have serious negative consequences on mental health. In the same way that the ant's death spiral ultimately leads to physical exhaustion and death, the social media spiral can lead to emotional exhaustion, anxiety, depression, and diminished self-esteem.

Lesson Learned: Prioritize Real-Life Connections and Emotional Resilience

• Balance your online interactions with real-life connections. Developing emotional resilience and practicing self-compassion can counteract the negative effects of social media.

Actionable Tip: Schedule regular face-to-face interactions and engage in activities that nurture your well-being. Keep a gratitude journal to focus on positive aspects of your life, unrelated to social media.

5. Difficulty in Breaking Free

Breaking free from these cycles, whether in the physical world of ants or the digital world of social media, is challenging. Once caught in the loop, it takes conscious effort and often external intervention to escape. For social media users, this might mean taking breaks, curating their feeds more thoughtfully, or seeking support from others to disconnect from validation-seeking behavior.

Lesson Learned: Explore Beyond the Digital Realm

• To break free from the digital loop, engage in activities outside the virtual world. Exploring new environments, trying new hobbies, and meeting new people can provide fresh perspectives and break the cycle of repetitive online behavior.

Actionable Tip: 

1. Go Outside and Explore: Spend time in nature, visit new places, or take up outdoor hobbies. Physical activity and exposure to different environments can refresh your mind and provide a break from the digital world.
2. Pursue New Interests: Invest time in activities and hobbies that are unrelated to social media. This can include learning a new skill, joining a club, or taking a class. Engaging in offline interests can help shift your focus away from social media and provide a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment.
3. Connect with Others in Person: Building and nurturing real-life relationships can help reduce the reliance on social media for validation. Participate in social events, community activities, or volunteer opportunities to foster genuine connections.

6. Practice Digital Detoxes

Taking regular breaks from social media can help you reset and gain perspective. These digital detoxes can range from a few hours to several days, depending on your needs. Stepping away from the constant noise of social media allows you to reconnect with your surroundings, reflect on your priorities, and recharge your mental energy.

Lesson Learned: Embrace Periodic Disconnection

• Regularly disconnecting from social media can help you regain control and perspective. Use this time to focus on personal growth, relationships, and activities that enhance your well-being.

Actionable Tip: Start with short digital detoxes, such as a screen-free evening, and gradually increase their duration. Use the detox time to engage in activities that promote relaxation and personal development.

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Conclusion: Embrace Balance and Intentionality

The "death spiral of ants" offers a powerful metaphor for the dangers of unchecked social media use. However, unlike ants, humans have the ability to reflect, make choices, and change their behavior. By cultivating mindfulness, setting boundaries, and engaging with purpose, we can break free from the loops that social media can create. Ultimately, it’s about finding balance—using social media as a tool to enrich our lives, rather than letting it dictate our thoughts, emotions, and actions.

By learning from the ant's death spiral and adopting these strategies, we can navigate the digital world with greater intentionality, ensuring that our online interactions enhance, rather than diminish, our overall well-being.

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References and Further Reading

1. Social Media and Mental Health:

   • Twenge, J. M., & Campbell, W. K. (2018). Associations between screen time and lower psychological well-being among children and adolescents: Evidence from a population-based study. Preventive Medicine Reports, 12, 271-283.
     • This study explores the link between increased screen time, particularly social media, and mental health issues such as depression and anxiety.

2. Feedback Loops in Social Media:

   • Lanier, J. (2018). Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now. Henry Holt and Company.
     • Jaron Lanier discusses how social media platforms are designed to create addictive feedback loops, trapping users in cycles of behavior.

3. Filter Bubbles:

   • Pariser, E. (2011). The Filter Bubble: How the New Personalized Web Is Changing What We Read and How We Think. Penguin Press.
     • Eli Pariser's book details how algorithms create filter bubbles that limit users' exposure to diverse perspectives, reinforcing existing beliefs.

4. Social Media Addiction:

   • Andreassen, C. S., & Pallesen, S. (2014). Social network site addiction - An overview. Current Pharmaceutical Design, 20(25), 4053-4061.
     • This paper examines social media addiction, comparing it to other forms of addiction and its impact on behavior and mental health.

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Episode 1: The Path Within: Transforming Myself Through Buddhism

Opening Reflection

My life seemed to be going well. I had a supportive family, two little boys, and enough financial security. From the outside, everything looked good, and I should have felt satisfied. But when I turned 40, I began to ask myself a profound question: What is the real purpose of my life?

I started to wonder if I was simply here to follow a set routine, achieve a few things, and then pass away—much like the philosophical view that “we come from nothing, and we return to nothing.” This thought made me uneasy and led me to question if there was more to life than just going through the motions. This marked the beginning of my search for a deeper meaning and a real change in my life.

Introduction to Buddhism

When I was younger, I often saw people around me, including my parents, praying for things like their children's success, wealth, and good health. But I never believed that praying alone could make those wishes come true without effort or action.

As a software developer, I spent most of my time in front of a computer, and reading books felt like a chore—something I avoided. This led me to mistakenly believe that my abilities and intelligence alone would help me overcome any obstacles in life. Because of this belief, I focused on changing the world through my talents.
However, one day, I picked up a book that changed my perspective: No Death, No Fear by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. It wasn’t just another book; it shifted something deep within me. The wisdom in its pages made me rethink not only my approach to reading but also my understanding of life itself.

Personal Motivation

After reading No Death, No Fear, I felt a strong urge to continue learning from Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. I began exploring more of his works, including Fear, The Art of Communicating, How to Love, and The Art of Power. Each book opened my mind and challenged the beliefs and paths that society and even my ancestors had imparted to me.

These teachings encouraged me to question the old ways of thinking and helped me see that there was more to life than just pursuing societal goals. They guided me toward a deeper understanding of myself and made me realize that true power and peace come from within. This shift in perspective motivated me to delve deeper into Buddhism, particularly focusing on the concept of impermanence.

The Start of the Journey

After absorbing the concepts from these books, I began to see the world and my life in a new way. Thich Nhat Hanh’s wisdom highlighted the importance of being present, so I started practicing one of the most basic yet powerful techniques—observing my breath.

By simply focusing on my breath, in and out, I trained my mind to return to the present moment, letting go of the distractions and worries that usually clouded my thoughts. This simple yet profound practice marked the true beginning of my journey with Buddhism. It wasn’t about grand gestures; it was about learning to be still and fully aware of the here and now.

Early Challenges and Insights

Initially, the practice of observing my breath seemed straightforward, but I quickly discovered how challenging it was to keep my mind from wandering. Thoughts about work, family, or the future frequently distracted me, making it difficult to remain in the present moment.

This was frustrating. I had always relied on logic and willpower to solve problems, but now I faced the challenge of simply being still and mindful. It felt unnatural to quiet my mind, and I struggled with the idea that something as fundamental as breathing could have such a profound impact on my mental state.

As I began to notice small changes and find peace in mindfulness, I shared these insights with friends and relatives. Some laughed or responded with perspectives that reflected the prevailing culture, saying things like, "You read those books, so you should know how to let it go," or "You can't do that. Life is about enjoying the good times—parties, beers, conferences, and socializing."

But deep down, I understood that reading the books was just the beginning. The real challenge lay in practicing these teachings to explore my inner world. While others might find joy in social activities, I felt a pull toward something more meaningful—a sense that mindfulness and inner peace were worth pursuing, even if it meant stepping away from the usual distractions of life.

Connection with the Self

As I incorporated mindfulness into my daily life, I began to practice it through simple, everyday activities. Whether I was observing my breath while sitting alone in the garden with a cup of tea or during my morning runs, I focused on staying present. Instead of being distracted by thoughts of what needed to be done or regrets about the past, I concentrated on my steps and breath.

Repeating this habit daily, I found that I started to enjoy the time spent alone. For instance, during forest treks with friends, I noticed I preferred walking by myself. Rather than feeling isolated, I felt connected to the beauty around me—the variety of animals, plants, and trees, the warmth of sunlight on my skin, or the coolness of water and moisture from waterfalls. What once might have been an uncomfortable heat became something I appreciated, and the quiet moments of solitude brought me a profound sense of peace.

This newfound enjoyment of solitude wasn’t about escaping from others but rather about connecting more deeply with myself. In these moments, I felt more aware, more alive, and more in tune with the present. Through this practice, I began to understand what it truly means to be mindful—not just in theory but in the way I lived each day.

Conclusion: The Beginning of Transformation

The journey I began with simple mindfulness practices marked the start of a profound transformation. While it began with observing my breath and focusing on the present moment, I soon felt a significant shift within myself. I realized that exploring the path within was essential for fulfilling my journey through life.

As I continued, I delved deeper into Buddhism, reading more books and listening to audiobooks that expanded my understanding. I learned valuable lessons on maintaining calmness, listening more attentively, and observing rather than simply expressing my opinions. This practice of mindfulness and self-awareness became central to my daily life, guiding me through challenges and enriching my experiences.

This transformation is ongoing. Each day presents new opportunities to explore, understand, and grow. What began as a simple step towards mindfulness has evolved into a deeper journey of self-discovery and personal growth. The path within continues to reveal itself, and I am committed to walking it with an open heart and mind.

Lesson learned

As I’ve shared the beginning of my journey, I hope to inspire you to explore your own path of self-discovery and mindfulness. Begin with small, manageable practices—whether it’s observing your breath, taking mindful walks, or setting aside moments of quiet reflection. Remember, this journey is personal and ongoing.

Consider incorporating mindfulness into your daily life. Start by dedicating a few minutes each day to mindful breathing or a brief moment of stillness. Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions without judgment, and allow yourself to fully experience each moment.

Transformation doesn’t happen overnight; it requires patience and consistent practice. Embrace the process and stay open to the lessons it brings.

For further exploration, consider these resources:

Books by Thich Nhat Hanh:

• No Death, No Fear (2002) – Offers insights into overcoming fear and understanding the nature of life and death.
• Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm (2012) – Provides practical advice on managing fear and embracing mindfulness.
• The Art of Communicating (2013) – Focuses on developing mindful and compassionate communication skills.
• The Art of Power (2013) – Explores the nature of power from a Buddhist perspective.

General Resources on Mindfulness:

• Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation for Everyday Life by Jon Kabat-Zinn (1994) – A practical guide to mindfulness meditation.
• The Wise Heart: A Guide to the Universal Teachings of Buddhist Psychology by Jack Kornfield (2008) – Offers insights into applying Buddhist principles to modern life.

These resources provide valuable guidance on mindfulness and personal transformation. I will continue to share my experiences on how Buddhism helps me transform my life, focusing on enjoying what I have rather than chasing what I don’t.

Episode 2: Embracing Impermanence – Finding Peace in Change

Overcoming AI Fears with Self-Improvement and Emotional Growth

Lately, there's been a lot of talk about AI, layoffs, machine replacements, and a dark future.

But why?
1. Lack of confidence
2. Overthinking the future
3. Reluctance to leave comfort zones
4. Resistance to change
5. Misinformation from the media creating unnecessary threats

So, what should we do?

1. Focus on self-improvement: Work on your dreams and personal development.
2. Understand human and AI contributions: Instead of worrying about AI taking your job, learn how to leverage AI to increase your productivity.
3. Enjoy the present and embrace change: Remember, the sun will still rise tomorrow.
4. Adapt and take risks: Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone.
5. Improve emotional intelligence: Emotional growth is key to building personal and meaningful relationships.